The Perfect Marriage
What’s the trick to having the perfect marriage? Well there isn’t one! Every marriage is a spot on a line from bad marriage to great marriage and everything we do to and for each other or against each other moves us along that line.
I’ve always thought my marriage was pretty good but that didn’t mean there wasn’t room for improvement. As a recent Christian I’ve been studying the Christian view of marriage and whether you agree with it or follow it or not is irrelevant. What’s relevant is that I’m using what I learn to improve my marriage.
That’s the best way you can get as close to the perfect marriage as you can, by always improving. Evaluate your marriage on a few key points and then come up with ways that YOU can improve them.
Notice I didn’t say ways you both can improve it. Why? Marriage isn’t on sided of course. No! But you cannot make someone do something else and no matter how much you think your spouse should try to do something to improve your marriage, you can’t make them. The best you can do is work on your end and hope he or she follows suit.
Faith aside, I personally think the BEST resource for your marriage is one simple book:
The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It’s a bestseller on Amazon for a reason. It explains how everyone falls into one of five categories of love languages aka how they understand and feel loved. By understanding what you and your spouse’s love language is, you can make a better effort at showing your spouse love in THEIR language.
Check it out on Amazon, look at those 5 star reviews! (affiliate links)
Don’t take my word for it, buy the book now, you WON’T regret it.
In the meantime, remember that no marriage is perfect, not even Mr and Mrs Smith from across the way who seem to have it all together. You never know what is behind closed doors.
This post is part of the March Marriage Challenge. Click the image below to see all the posts for March around the net.